Years ago I created the image below. Little did I know that I would be continually learning this. I’m not a huge fan of doing things that are hard for me. (Helping you declutter and organize is easy for me so never you fear!) I keep choosing to do the hard things first and I keep growing to be able to do more and more things.
I want to share two stories of times that I chose to do the hard thing first. The first was a dentist appointment. I needed to schedule an appointment to get work done that would require needles. Needles are a hard thing for me. I’m a fainter. I had in my mind the day of the week and because of that, the month I assumed I would need to schedule in. Surely, I though, they couldn’t just work me in. Well, after scheduling the appointment 6 weeks out as I expected I got off of the phone and then processed the phone call. Wait, had she just offered me an appointment the next morning? She did! I called right back because I was actually able to do that time. Instead of waiting 6 weeks, getting all worked up, I did the hard thing right away. I didn’t have time to get all worked up about it and worry about the scary, hard thing. Not only that but the people helping me (the dentist and assistant) are experts in their field, show great care, and just got on with the task at hand because they know what they are doing. And, bonus, it turned out I didn’t need any needles! I would have worked myself into one giant walking stress ball and been thoroughly exhausted afterward if I had waited 6 weeks only to find out I had wasted all that time stressing over nothing. Instead, I was in and out in less than 30 minutes. I was also energized for the rest of the day and able to pick up an extra sessions to help a client in need.
Fast forward just a week. I needed to have routine labs done. As you may recall from the previous story, I do not do needles well. Instead of putting it off to the last minute, I went ahead and did it as soon as I could. It was easy, again, because the person helping me (the phlebotomist, person who took my blood) was good at what she does, cared about me, and just did it without lallygagging around. Another case of just doing the hard thing and feeling energized afterward instead of drained.
As all of these hard things were being accomplished, I also came across this image by Marzi @introvertdoodles on Instagram.
From my experience, this is merely “Person A” and “Person B” as I’ve encountered more people that fall into the “me” category than in the “most adults” category. Just the same, be brave and make the call or whatever the hard things is. Having conquered the task, most of the time we see that the hard thing isn’t as big and scary as we originally made it out to be.
Your “hard thing” may be picking up the house or maybe going through your belongings, making decisions to actually have less in your home so that you can feel more at ease and peaceful in your home.
Who will be your expert that cares about you, helps move you along, and sees that you accomplish your task? You may have a good friend who is able to do these things. You may want to contact me because now is the time to do the hard thing of decluttering your home. I would be honored to walk with you with care (not judgement) and efficiency to see you through to the end.